We use this phrase all the time. It might mean ‘I’m sorry I have to tell you that…’ or ‘I’m scared that will happen’. Sometimes we’re afraid of real dangers or disappointments, and sometimes we’re not. Anxiety is the clinical…

“I wish I was confident!” I recently did a Facebook bootcamp about online visibility for my business. There were nearly 11,000 people participating – almost all women – from all over the world. They all run their own businesses from…

One of my first clients came to me with a self-confidence problem. She had a good job with plenty of prospects, but she didn’t dare speak up in meetings and she felt that was holding her back. Our early sessions…

A friend recently shared a video with me of Brene Brown talking about this subject.  I have a bit of a love-hate relationship with Brene Brown, but on this topic I think she was spot on. A lot of my…

The other day I asked a friend if she wanted to come to an event with me. She replied ‘No, thank you’. That was it. No excuse, no prevarications, no ‘I’ll seeif I’m available’. Just a simple, unequivocal refusal. I…

Why is it that people are so quick to criticise? You see it most on social media, of course, where the disinhibition effect allows people to be a lot more… shall we say, unfiltered than they often are in real…

Not all people who suffer a loss or bereavement need counselling, but those who do usually say this at some point in the process; usually very early on. In fact it’s the feeling that they should be ‘over it’ by…

You may have noticed that people like to complain and criticise when they’re online. I mean, they like to complain and criticise in real life too, but they do it more, and more viciously, online. And it isn’t just complaining,…

Just recently I’ve had several new clients coming to me with long term pain. Some have medical diagnoses – arthritis, chronic fatigue, spinal degeneration – and some don’t; but all of them are suffering and the NHS hasn’t got anything…

You can depend on me I was reading something the other day about complementary therapies, and it said that most therapists create a dependent relationship with their clients. Because the client pays the therapist, it’s in the therapist’s interest to…